*uck Tradition

(BUCK tradition. We mean Buck.)

After years of “traditional” marriage, there are so many things today that brides think they are “supposed” to do. The fun thing about marriage today is: there are no rules! You and your partner can and should make your celebration your own, and not even the Pope can tell you what to do.

You are supposed to cry when you put on “the one.”

No. Just No. Say Yes to the Dress on TLC put A LOT of false ideas about wedding dress shopping in our heads, including but not limited to crying when you see yourself in your dress. You should feel comfortable and confident, yes, but emotional? Not necessarily. Whatever emotions (or lack thereof) come up as you are trying on your dress are just fine, and there is no one way to react when you feel like you have found YOUR dress.

You have to wear a veil.

Definitely not. A veil has a complicated history when it comes to feminism, so if you feel a veil does not represent your beliefs, that is totally fine. But, the veil has also evolved to be a dramatic and bold accessory. (Like, have you seen our Blondie Veil?) Moral of the veil story? You do you.

Your partner can’t see you before the ceremony.

False. If that walk-down-the-aisle look is super important to you guys, you do what you have to do to have that moment for each other. But doing a “first look” thing earlier in the day allows you to have a little more time in the day for photos and whatever else is going on. Whatever you do, please don’t miss your own cocktail hour to go take photos!

You can’t spend the night before the wedding together.

I mean. It is 2021. You can do whatever you want. And as for getting ready for the wedding itself, it’s fun to have that girls-getting-ready time, but it also sweet and intimate to get ready with your partner.

You have to have a wedding party.

Not only do your bridesmaids not have to match, but you literally don’t even have to have them! No wedding party, no problem.

You have to wear a white dress.

Well, you know how we feel about this!

The biggest bridal myth of all is that there is a certain way you have to do anything at all. Celebrate in any way that feels authentic to you and your love.

xo, Marteal